Why You Feel Guilty for Setting Boundaries

Stephanie Strouth • February 17, 2026
Setting boundaries can feel uncomfortable, especially if you are used to putting others first. You may worry about disappointing someone, being perceived as selfish, or creating conflict. Even when you know a boundary is healthy, guilt can make it difficult to follow through.

Boundary guilt often begins in environments where your needs were secondary to others’ expectations. If you learned that approval depended on being agreeable or accommodating, asserting yourself can feel risky. Over time, this pattern can lead to emotional exhaustion and resentment.

Therapy can help you explore where boundary guilt originated and how to shift your relationship with it. At Anchoring Hope Counseling, clients learn that boundaries are not acts of rejection but expressions of self-respect. As confidence in setting limits grows, many people experience healthier relationships and greater emotional balance.

You are allowed to protect your time, energy, and emotional well-being. Boundaries do not make you unkind; they help you show up in relationships in a more sustainable way.

At Anchoring Hope Counseling, we accept most insurances and offer therapy as well as mental health medication management. Clients benefit from 24/7 access to our wellness app, telehealth services across Virginia, and in-person care at our Abingdon, Wise, and Pennington Gap offices. To schedule a free consultation, call (276) 298-5034
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Whether you're struggling with anxiety, trauma, relationships, or simply feeling stuck, we offer personalized care that empowers you to take control, feel grounded, and move forward with purpose.

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    We accept Anthem, United/Optum, Cigna, and Aetna (plans through an employer, family member, or marketplace).  If you check your insurance portal to see if we accept your insurance, we may not show up on that directory. We do use insurance for individual sessions, but not for true couples/family therapy. If you wish to check your benefits prior to scheduling, you may complete a profile HERE. Call us at 276-298-5034 if you have additional questions. We also provide counseling at a private pay rate and can check your out-of-network benefits for policies we are not in network with. Unfortunately, Medicaid/Medicare does not have out-of-network benefits and will only pay for in-network providers. We are NOT in network with Medicaid/Medicare. 

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As part of our commitment to your overall well-being, we offer more than just counseling and medication management. Enjoy exclusive perks like free access to our Anchoring Hope app, discounts with our trusted partners, and savings on transformative Soundbed sessions. We believe in a holistic approach to care, ensuring that you receive a truly unique and enriching experience every step of the way.

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We understand that true healing involves more than just the time spent in session. That's why we provide our clients with awesome extras designed to enhance your overall experience. From tools to manage everyday stress to special offers that promote relaxation and wellness, our perks are crafted to meet your unique needs. At Anchoring Hope Counseling, we’re here to ensure that your path to well-being is as smooth and supportive as possible. With us, you have access to:


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