Together Apart: Navigating Co-Parenting and Preventing Parental Alienation During the Holidays

Stephanie Strouth • June 27, 2025
The holiday season is a time for joy, love, and creating lasting memories—especially for children. When parents are separated or divorced, however, navigating this special time can feel challenging. With open communication, mutual respect, and a shared commitment to your child’s well-being, co-parenting during the holidays can be a beautiful opportunity to strengthen family bonds and avoid harmful dynamics like parental alienation.

If you're finding co-parenting especially difficult, family therapy or counseling can provide valuable support and strategies for navigating these challenges.

Understanding Parental Alienation
Parental alienation occurs when one parent unintentionally or deliberately influences their child to fear, reject, or distrust the other parent. This behavior often stems from unresolved conflict or emotional distress and can damage the parent-child relationship. Recognizing and addressing parental alienation is crucial for fostering healthy, loving connections with both parents. Professional support, such as therapy for kids or family counseling, can help address these dynamics effectively.

Co-Parenting with Positivity: Strategies for a Joyful Holiday Season
To ensure the holidays remain a positive experience for your children, consider these strategies to prevent parental alienation and promote healthy co-parenting:

1. Speak Kindly About Each Other
Rather than focusing on negative feelings or frustrations, aim to speak positively—or at least neutrally—about the other parent. When your child hears good things about both parents, it reinforces their sense of love and security. If addressing sensitive topics, save those conversations for adults outside your child’s earshot.

2. Share the Holidays Fairly
Stick to agreed-upon custody schedules and be flexible where needed. Whether it’s alternating holidays or sharing parts of the day, maintaining a fair approach ensures your child has meaningful time with both parents. A collaborative attitude shows your child that their happiness comes first.

3. Encourage Open Communication
Support your child’s connection with the other parent, even when they aren’t physically together. This could include video calls, phone check-ins, or helping them create a holiday card or gift for the other parent. These gestures strengthen bonds and send the message that both parents are valued and loved. 

4. Avoid Putting Kids in the Middle
Resist the urge to ask your child for information about the other parent. Instead, focus on your own quality time with them. Placing your child in the role of a “messenger” or “spy” can create unnecessary stress and divide their loyalty, which may cause long-term emotional harm.

5. Keep the Holidays Child-Focused
While it’s natural to feel tempted to share your struggles, avoid burdening your child with adult concerns. Instead, focus on creating joyful holiday memories. Bake cookies, decorate together, or watch festive movies. By keeping the season lighthearted and child-centered, you set the stage for lasting happiness.

Building New Traditions Together
The holidays are an excellent time to embrace new traditions. You might bake a unique holiday treat, volunteer together, or create personalized ornaments. Co-creating these moments not only reinforces your child’s sense of family but also strengthens the co-parenting dynamic in a positive way.

A Season of Togetherness
By focusing on collaboration, respect, and your child’s emotional well-being, co-parenting through the holidays can be a time of growth and unity. Let this season remind you that while circumstances may have changed, the love for your child remains constant. Together, you can ensure the holidays are filled with warmth, laughter, and cherished moments that your child will carry with them for years to come.

When to Seek Help
If co-parenting challenges feel overwhelming, or if your family is struggling to maintain harmony, counseling can provide the tools and support you need. At Anchoring Hope Counseling, we specialize in helping families navigate difficult transitions, improve communication, and strengthen their relationships.

Whether you're searching for counseling near me, family therapy, or therapy for kids, our experienced team is here to help. Contact Anchoring Hope Counseling today to schedule a session and take the first step toward a more peaceful and joyful holiday season. 

Disclaimer: We understand there are always situations outside of the norm, so the above advice may be counterintuitive to your specific situation. We are happy to help brainstorm new ideas or validate helpful expressions of needs with our clients.

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